l have a girlfriend and l really love her so much that l sacrifices allot of thing for her in able to be with her. We've going great these fast few days . Then one day she came to me and ask me to broke up with her. She said that she needed sometime for her studies and she think that l needed some time too. She said that she will be very busy. Its ok in my part but l really don't want to broke up with her. i just agree.

Last wednesday me and my bandmates are playing in a bar outside manila when l accidentally saw my girlfriend or should l say ex-girlfriend. Whats is that??? she broke up with me because she needed some time and l granted her wish. but now she's dating someone. What did l do wrong???? What is going on???

Help!!!

l'm freakin' out

and my head hurts

here's your answer



some girls care for their future more than their youthful romances or maybe she just doesn't like you as much, if she doesn't like you as much, then leave it alone and don't act like it's the end of the world

How long have you been with her? Maybe you are taking it too seriously and she got a little scared of that. Give her the space. Enjoy yourself with other things, just have a good time without her. If you two get back together then it's cool. If not let it go. You will find someone who will want to spend as much time with you as you do with her.:: Just give it time:::

Or maybe, unfortunately, she is just a liar, or didn't want to come out and say, "I don't like you, I like someone else."

Best you can do is let it go, I think. I know it's easier said than done, but you just gotta get over things and move on. Life is too precious to waste it being sad or angry.

in that case your better off without her, if she did that to you, and you're a good person, she is a sore loser

we've been for a year now. l didn't do anything wrong. l've been a good boyfriend and l understand her dicissions. l didn't tried to hold her back, l let her do her own this and do her own staff. l give her the freedom to enjoy life. all l wanted for her to know that l'm here when she needed me most. l'm here for her. that l love her no matter what but maybe is not the right time for us


is it right to wait for her

no matter how hard l tried to forget her
the harder l tried the painful it gets

its not suppose to hurt this way
l need you l need you
more and more each day





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tanong ko lang sa langit kung bakit pumangit
ang dating masaya ngayon panay problemang
bumabalot sa buto, bakit ganito


ang pag ibig ganyan talaga
pag bago ang pag ibig
masaya!!!

if she doesn't want to be with you... that's the end of it... don't try looking for ways to get her back. let her decide that. You shouldn't rush your feelings for her if she doesn't want them. sometimes, it's the best maybe to think if she's happier this way than your happiness if you truly love her

maybe she broke up with your for another...she probably lied but this just means u needa move on and find another

a lot of things couls have gone wrong
just confront her about it

Man, don't blame yourself. Sometimes people are cruel and lie about things. That doesn't mean it's your fault.

maybe

but l cant help blaming myself

maybe l'm not enough for her

maybe l she expects so much and l failed to do so

Sometimes relationships don't work out. It's not that you "failed" anyone--you just weren't right for each other. Maybe it worked out at first, but it probably stopped because something wasn't just right. Don't let it get you down too much. If there's nothing you can do, there's nothing you can do.

Seriously.


And if you truly do like/love/whatever her, then let her go. She knows what's best for her. You just need to realize this.

couldnt have said it any better..

man, you gotta respect her. If i were her i would've broken up with you (no offense) cuz i just figured out that you're so "clingy" even after a break-up. Let her go, give some space, respect her and try not to get her back (if that's what your attempting) and if she's dating someone else, give some privacy. don't go all panicking. She's not your property.

I agree. If you really care about her, you'd want her to be happy. She probably just needed space, and she didn't want to make you all sad. So don't be so depressed, you'll get over it eventually.

the thing is she lied to you, try not to get so caught up in it. maybe she thought that that's an easier way to break it off.

just let her go.

i doubt that you didn't do anything wrong. she probably just wasn't as into the relationship anymore. at a young age, long term relationships fizzle out after awhile. she said that she needed time for school so it wouldn't be so hard for you. it sounds better than "i don't like you anymore."

i'm sorry my dear, but just move on

XANDER<333.

i don't know her, but what i know that is you're a great person, and i don't think it's your fault. i'm sure you care for her a lot, but maybe she needed sometime away as in that maybe she felt that she missed being with other people. and since she didn't want to tell that to you, she asked you to break up with her for "school reasons." personally speaking, she's stupid for letting you go. don't worry xander. you're awesome

Thats true. I'm afraid that is the only way. I had it a little worse, my ex-girlfriend started going out with someone without even breaking up with me. I know what its like, it really sucks.

Very sorry for your situation.

Suck it up and man up. Damn, man! Shit happens and that's just the way life goes.

^ you know, if you were going to say something so pointless, why don't you just keep it to yourself. i'm sorry that we're not as heartless as you are.

Maybe you should talk to her about it, and she said she needed some time to study but it doesnt mean she has to study all the time. She could of been taking a break...

Wow you sound so sweet.


Well my bf was like ver swet and what not but sometimes you need to be serious and hold things down. If she didnt appreciate you then forget her you dont need someone like that making your head hurt. =(
I hope you feel better.

thanks yanlin, your so nice


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yeah we really need to talk but l think maybe next week.
l'm stil mad and maybe next week will be alright or everything will be alright
maybe its not what l think it is. l'm stil hoping for the best.



if not then his right

life must go on and l should move on too

maybe were not meant for each other.


( that hurts)

don't act like it's the end of the world. get over it. as heartless as i sound seriously just.. GET OVER IT. stop saying "it hurts" cuz if you keep believing that it does hurt and pains you, you'll hurt even more. Sure it's a sad break-up. You have the right to be sad at least. but don;t be so sad that some people think you're pathetic. i know you're just a sweet guy but you're really giving me the impression that you're just a pushover. be strong man and don't let such break-up get to ya

^your sig is stretching the browserwindow.

aw xander. don't worry. everything will work out for the best. if you're not meant to be, then it's probably for the best. you'll find the right one for you. keep your head up 'k? there'll always be better days.

email me if you want to talk (:

hum... I gave you my advice but obviously I had no idea you two had been together for a year. I could just imagine what your relationship was like, so that is that. Then, from what you wrote you saw your ex gf with another guy. What a week after you two broke up? So she either left you for him and told you she needed time to study etc. OR two, she did not want to be with you anymore and thought it would hurt you less if she told you it was for her studies, and then met a new guy that fast. Which is possible. It's happened to me. So, whatever the options she told you she doesn't want to be with you. For studies or whatever. I don't know how old you are but I am sure you are young and you will meet someone when the time comes. Right now, don't just ''wait for her''. If you feel like you have some last words to tell her, because maybe you didn't really think she was actually breaking up with you that day, write her a letter and let go.

You will get past the hurt. ::Just give it time:: take care.

well guys, its over! l talked to her this morning and we decided to end it up. She said that the reason why she broke up with me is that she thought that were going a little to fast or things happened so fast for both of us ( l haven't even kiss her yet, now thats fast.hahaha!). She said that she's going out with Mike. She said that she dont want to hurt me anymore and she think its good for us to be friends again. She said that she's not sure about her feeling toward me. She said that she's confuse about my feelings too. She said that she have mixed feeling.






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there is always for a reason why things happens the way they do.
many of us fail coz many of us don't try at all. we make our selves believe that the best way to overcome an emotional challenge is to avoid it. but avoiding it simply puts the challenge aside. we will stil need to face the day when we have to comfort the feeling we need to stay away from before.
sometimes we ask out selves, why loving someone has to be as complicated mess of emotion and entanglements. sometimes circumtances make it very diffecult for us to openly express what we feel for someone. sometimes love is so elusive and when we finally fine it, its too late.

xander, there is time for everything and now is not. maybe there is a place somewhere out there for that love. maybe there is a time catch up on all that you have missed. but until that day dawns, you simple have to move on and live not a what "could have been life" but rather a life that should be. if you are meant to each other then you have to wait because Ayen will comeback to you. if she doesn't then you have to accept that she never was yours. Do not let your love for her make you feel miserable. let that love be the strenght so that so that you my find happiness in the arms of someone trully meant for you.







another one





everything happened for the best. if the person you
love doesn't love you back, don't be afraid to love
somebody else again;you'll never know if it will
returned unless you give it s try. You never really
love someone unless you risk for it.

love strives and grow in hurting. lf you dont get hurt,
you don't learn how to love.

love doesn't hurt all the time. the hurting is there to
test us and help you grow. you cannot finish a
book without closing its chapters. to move on, you
have to leave the ast in the same way you turn the
pages.

loving is not destroy by a single single failure or
won by a single caress. it is a life verture wherein
we are always learning, discovering and growing.

loving's great irony is letting go when you need to
hold on and/or holding on when you needed to let
go. loving people means giving them the freedom to
choose whom and where they want to be happy,
regardless whether those choices leads toward or
away from you.

we lose someone we love only when we are
destined to find someone else who can love us
more than we love ourselves.

dont try to find love, let love finds you. that's why
its called "falling in love" coz you don't force your
self to fall. you just fall.

in falling to someone, take time to heal and then go
back to the horse again. But don't make the same
mistakes of riding the first trew you.







but l'm stil hoping for the same horse who trew me

everything's going to be fine.


i find this very well written.
don't let your love for her "cover" the kinds of happiness you could have. it'll be hard since you guys were together for so long, but it's all going to be okay. soon, you'll be truly truly happy, cuz i know you deserve it.

thanks yanlin, your so sweet


yeah, everything will be ok

hope so....

Hey take it easy, everyone goes through breakups sometime in their life

l'm trying

it's gonna be all right. i know it's cliched, but there's always the sun after the rain. (:

ghee

thanks yanlin

dont worry everything will ok. All l have to be is make my self busy and busy and busy.


"keep your head up 'k? there'll always be better days."

yup there is and l'm trying to keep my head up to the sky and pretend nothing happened. l'm good at pretending. lols



l'm ok now

thank you very much guys

^ Yeah I agree with mipadi. She probably couldn't say "I like this other guy and I wanna be with im not you." I say, you get over her. OR find an activity you really like and start getting into it.