self pity is really unattractive.

self pity is really unattractive.

my personal rules for dating

. get to know the boy or girl; like them for atleast 1 month before dating

. share some interests and hobbies, it makes things easier later on

. when his/her presence annoys you, without them doing anything, that's BAD

. suffocation is bad; don't think every minute of your life should be with them

. your friends are important too- he/she will understand

. it's only puppy love; until you're out of high school, it probably doesn't matter- so relax

things i've learned

. be open with your boyfriend or girlfriend as completely as you're comfortable with; that means if you have things only a best friend should know, it's your decision to tell them- but if you're keeping a secret that bothers you, you'll be more comfortable getting it out in the open.

. "taking it slow" means many different things- find a pace that combines physical steps as well as emotional ones

. don't be afraid to talk about the things that bother you, and at the same time talk about the things that make you feel good, too

. when your boyfriend or girlfriend is sad, and you feel like you can't do anything about it, just hug or kiss them- chances are it makes more of a difference than you think, just being there

. some people can't express their feelings like the actors on the big-screen do... even if you don't get any romantic speeches or a bouquet of flowers, your boy/girl will find a way to show you how they feel in due time

. be patient and listen to everything they have to say- only interrupt them if you're going to say "i love you,"

. not every fight means you're going to break up

the biggest and most important thing i've learned about love and relationships is that all these rules are made to be broken; every person is different and therefore every relationship is different. it is possible to share a successful relationship with someone you barely know, and it's also possible to share a successful relationship with someone you know "too well." all the things you think you know will change when you find love; so if you break up with someone on the basis of a stupid rule, then you never know what you have lost.

Thanks for all the information, it's true having a relationship in High School isn't such a good idea... ^.^

umm ok lets see..
to not let anyone rush you into doing things you don't want to
not to say "i love you" all day everyday to make it seem like its just something you throw around and it has no meaning for you whatsoever.
to communicate better.. talk about your feelings and not just shut people out when your going through a rough time because you dont think that they would understand.
to talk openly about your past and the things that you've done, even though it may sound as though your dwelling on it..
to treat them equally..
know that it might not last forever, and be able to be without him.. to be on your own..
to love yourself, because if you dont, they wont see why they should either.

Key word is most. My guy is not a moron....right

-Be careful what you say when you are angry. Hearing "We should take a break" can really break a person down.
-Say "I love you" only when you truly feel it and mean it.
-High school romances can be amazing, no matter what anyone has said. They might not last, but at least you learn to love.
-Trust is mighty important
-As is forgiveness, only if they deserve it though.
-Girls, USE SEX A WEAPON

You need to give in order to recieve!

yep!!!!

never engage in a "friends with benefits" relationship.
don't hesitate too long when making decisions in romance.
if you like him, just tell him (which, I'm still trying to do. :\)

yes, most.

and yes, high school is a good learning ground for relationships. However, i'm tired of dealing with friends who think they're going to marry thier boyfriend.

- a white lie used carefully is not a bad thing
- people often arent happy being told the truth
- know when to walk away
- dont get involved if you arent sure you want to

dont get attached cuz sumthins gonna screw up ur relationship and ul break up, if ur to attached it just ends up hurtin u in tha long run.

-things can end for no good reason but in the long run, it was a good decision.

-take risks next time

what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

amen to that. and honestly dont be friends right AFTER you guys broke up. give like a day or a few. well heres my rule: the number of months you dated equal to the number of days you're allowed to mope over them. after that, move on.




and seroiusly say things when they bug you. anddd well heres one for me, meet their friends. not just him meeting your friendss



**noteeee

*ahemmmm** and if you dont go to the same school. (even if you only live 20 minutes away from each other) make sure u can make some sacrifices for each other to see each other more than twice a week (which is on the weekends) drop by even for 5 minutes in the hours after school.

I went out with my ex for 3 years. Yeah her definition of love is different than mine.

How does one not get attached to someone you love?

Well, I've learned that before high school romances are a total waste of time. I mean, ariite, you don't like me! I don't care! So we aren't going to prom together! Just tell instead of having your friends run around telling me you don't! grr...

Never stay with a guy whose really serious about you when you really like his friend. Don't hook up with said friend like a few days after you guys broke up.

Don't look ahead and enjoy the moment.

^I don't think they are a total waste of time at all. High school is the perfect time to sort of test out what kind of boys you want in your life. It is like a trying on of relationships. It is a good time to learn and to grow.

That guys will do physical things with you to make you happy, while they don't even like you which in the end, will make you more sad then you've ever been.



AMEN AMEN AMEN, to that. My boyfriend told me he wanted a break, and I was like because it came out of nowhere.

Seriously, if you want to take a break HAVE A GODDAMN REASON.

1)what goes around come around, i caught my first bf cheating on me with another girl. and i was really upset but then she cheated on him.
2) listen to ur friends
3)make sure you know the person well before you go out with them

wow...so freaking true...haha ^_________^ i feel the same way...hahaha

The biggest thing I've learned is to not get attached, high school relationships rarely last and if it was really meant to be then it will come back to you in the end.

-dont try to impress the guy by being able to let him have his way with you.
-take it slow, he doesnt need to see your whole body just yet.
-'iloveyou' doesnt mean anything, hes jus saying it because his friends are.

love does not last

this is my first boyfriend. sum1 wanted to be my bf but i said no. ive made out with like 3 guys but yeah. i been with my boyfriend for almost a year and i L0VE him alot.. but that dont meant hat i havent learned shit.

i guess u just havent found that 1 guy.

1) Don't talk to her everyday

2)look her in the eye more often

3) Use more air when I talk.( more assertive voice)

4) Stop being afraid to say things

5) make more jokes

6) make a hug mean something

7) Always leave'er wanting more

8)Hitting is a good thing

9) being called a "jerk/meanie" in a joking manner is also good.

10) Sparingly is in the word.

I agree, especially with the first point...
Adding on to what I've said before:
- Don't say anything you'll regret later
- Always keep your promises (ie: if you promise to do something, do it)
- Don't assume things in the relationship
- Don't get mad over small and silly things.

don't think about them too much,
it'll just take longer and be harder for you to get over them when they're gone.

don't think that just plain eye contact and smiling and no other type of communication will eventually bring out a relationship.

don't push people that care for you away when you feel sad or angry, but talk to them, you'll feel so much better.

don't imagine or fantacize beautiful things about someone you really like, but isn't even with you.

writing private entries on livejournal help in letting those emotions out.

learn to love yourself first before loving someone else,
otherwise you would be dependent on that person for confidence, and when this person leaves you, you'd feel so empty.

realize that nothing lasts forever.

realize that if they can make you feel like you're on the top of the world, they can also make you feel like you're alone in the world.

1.) Never allow yourself to let the guy you like take advantage of your feelings
2.) umm...love isn't money?

1. All the things that people say about not talking about important or serious issues are bullshit. The right guy will want you to talk about what matters to you.
2. If you want to be clingy, then by all means be clingy, so long as you don't go totally stupid and actually think about his feelings too. Would you want someone constantly poking you if you were exhausted and only wanted to sleep?
3. Have the same or similar goals. I don't mean 'I want to get a car'. I mean the important things like 'One day I want to settle down out in the country and grow most of my own food and maybe have kids if I can afford it.'
4. If he ever takes his feelings out on you by hitting you, even if its not hard and even if its in jest, don't put up with it.
5. If someone wants to mess around with you before deciding whether or not they want a relationship with you, don't. They probably don't want you and it's not worth it.
6. Just because they want to mess around with you doesn't mean that they will want a relationship. In fact, they almost certainly won't.
7. Don't settle for someone who doesn't feel the same way you do.
8. If they worry that they're not affectionate enough when they're always giving you flowers and holding your hand and kissing you and really, really love you, it may be a good sign.
9. Guys will tell you they love you once and then think that you'll always remember it.
10. If they say they love you but they aren't in love with you and you're in a relationship with them, slap them and tell them to eff off. That comment can be freely translated as 'I have no intention of being in a long term relationship with you because I don't actually care about you but I want sex so I'll tell you I love you and then qualify it and maybe it'll fool them into thinking they have a chance.'
11. You can't change someones feelings.
12. Real love is worth waiting for and if you have bad things happen to you, it's not the end.

get attached at your own risk. but its not about being attached. its about taking care of yourself. know that the reality is that no matter how hard you want it, its not always the same feeling on the other side of the relationship.

Don't worry. Just be happy with the present.

DON'T OVERANALYZE EVERYTHING! Just let it be... and your relationships will prosper.

Don't be gullible and believe every little thing the significant other says. Man, I thought my past bf was cool, but he lied about some things.. More like he exaggerated to try to sound cool.

Also, don't be too superficial. Looks don't mean squat of the guy doesn't have a good personality or doesn't interest you in any way. I think those are all givens, right? lol.

Oh yea, and love is more than just a word...

Never try to block out your real feelings, you wil regret it after it's over.
Think about what they would feel if you do something dumb..

Just love, but know that you can lose him/her really easily......and you won't even realize what you did til you lose it all.

Never leave the one you love for the one you like.

i've learned not to trust guys ever again






p.s my last boyfriend can burn in hell

I'm bumping this.

Always give more than your 50%.

If you were friends with a person before you started going out, do not think that even if the relationship doesn't work out you can still go back to being friends. I thought that, and I tried to continue the friendship, but my ex-boyfriend developed an attitude and told me he didn't want to be friends with me.