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imhyper
does this belong here??? huh.gif welll...
sometimes, i think people look at me at a whole different way....i dont know why...but, in the outside they look normal, but in the inside they must be thinking...
"man, what an idiot", or "eww, why are you talking to me?" then they try to avoid me like the flu pinch.gif
I not sure weather it's my ugly face, my conversation, or my voice. Then, i think im ANNOYING PEOPLE!!! _unsure.gif It always happens- everywhere, from cB, my house, my school, EVERYWHERE!! (see, i bet right now, u are getting annoyed by me) blink.gif I DRAW PEOPLE AWAY!! my parents, my sister, my teachers, people at school, people on the internet. Not 1 person that knows me, comes up to me and says hi-(other than my 2 closest friends)<.< NOBODY!! I would have to say hi to them myself, and then i think im annoying that person ermm.gif AND NOW, SOME OF MY CLOSEST FRIENDS ARE MOVING, AND I THINK IM THE CAUSE OF IT!!

people hate me right? stubborn.gif
hall0w
r u ugly, nerdy ?
mishyerr
it seem just like you need some confidence and not be so cynical. ^__^

And I highly doubt everyone hates you.
imhyper
well, my close friends say that i have "very pretty long brown hair" which i know is not true. And that i have such a baby face and i look like a 7th grader-when really im a 9th grader. Well, i know that im not "nerdy" but I dress normally.

I just think i look ugly, and that people purposely, try to avoid me.
I'm almost 15 AND I HAVENT EVEN GOT MY FIRST KISS YET!!! >:O
hall0w
mellow.gif r u always gloomy or mad or something... or did u do stuff to piss off other people? try hangin out with new people and try to b friends with them? sry i cant help much mellow.gif
xcaitlinx
^ yeah, you obviously aren't so shut up while you're ahead. jerk.


anywayyyyyyy, i don't think you should change who you are just to fit other people's standards. if they find you annoying, then they're jerks and you shouldn't WANT to be friends with them. just try to be yourself and if you do then everyone will accept you for who you are.
Aoiro
For me, I don't think of you as annoying, nor do I hate you.
People have their own personal reasons.
Kind of like me in school...
Sometimes I talk way too loud, and that's when people get annoyed.
Maybe that's the problem?
And your closest friends probably have family reasons.
Did you ask why they were moving?
@_________@;;
topsyturvy
^ agree with her. You might think you're the reason they're moving, but i highly doubt it ermm.gif
Aoiro
It could also be overly hyper.
That gets people annoyed by me, too.
xD
elaboratedream
QUOTE(imhyper @ Sep 20 2005, 9:12 PM)
I'm almost 15 AND I HAVENT EVEN GOT MY FIRST KISS YET!!!  >:O
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hey, I'm 15 and I still haven't gotten my first kiss...

but back to the topic, maybe you're overly hyper, too nice, not nice enough or maybe YOU'RE JUST PARANOID. Hey, I have the same problem... but don't let that stand in the way of making new friends and stuff. Try talking to them more. Maybe they feel the same way. Maybe they think that you don't like them or find them annoying. Whatever the case may be, just be yourself and don't listen to the annoying voice in your head (not literally...) that tells you that they think you're annoying.

and about being ugly, most people think that of themselves. I always used to think that of myself (and still do sometimes...) but you need to remember that everyone is beautiful in their own way. the standard of beauty in today's society is unreasonable and people need to understand that there is no such thing as perfection. And anyone who would avoid you just because of your appearance is shallow and wouldn't make a very good friend anyways. (same goes to people who only hang out with you because they think you're hott... *mutters darkly* but that's a whole different issue.)

as for your friends moving away, it sucks big hairy monkey balls I'm sure, but I'm positive they aren't moving away because of you. You'd have to be some creepy stalker or something for them to want to go to that extreme to avoid you. That's the part of your post that assured me that you're paranoid. Chill a bit, and try to stay in touch with those friends.

okay, I've rambled enough... basically, just be yourself and act more confident (but not arrogant) and you'll make more friends.
_sarcastic_
maybe that's just what you think. or maybe that's what driving them away? you CANT be the reason that your closest friends are moving away, i mean if they're your closest friends why would they wanna avoid you.
just be more confident and give it time, people will slowly realize you're not a bad person at all
sweetdreamsx3
QUOTE(imhyper @ Sep 20 2005, 9:12 PM)
well, my close friends say that i have "very pretty long brown hair" which i know is not true. And that i have such a baby face and i look like a 7th grader-when really im a 9th grader.  Well, i know that im not "nerdy" but I dress normally.

I just think i look ugly, and that people purposely, try to avoid me.
I'm almost 15 AND I HAVENT EVEN GOT MY FIRST KISS YET!!!  >:O
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Hey. I'm a senior and people think I'm 13..when I'm 17, so hush. And I agree with the perseon who said you're just paranoid.
xklipse
lol, im 17, and I havn't been kissed yet, so what? I think you just takes things too seriously
expoised
you seem to be the type of person who needs people around them to constantly feel reassured. someone who digs for compliments, then tells the people who compliment them that they're lying.

truthfully... nobody likes to be around that type of person. don't think that you're such a big deal to anyone that they'd move away because of you, because i doubt they even realize they're making you feel that way.
jooleeah
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I agree.

I don't think your friends are moving because of you. blink.gif What the heck?
WindSorcerous
Aww, i'm sure we all feel that way sometimes. I do, eh, teenage hormones...makes ya go crazy. I doubt you draw people away from you. Just relax, kiddo! And looking like a 7th grader instead of a 9th grader isn't bad at all. I know someone who is a senior and I would have thought she was a middleschooler...people grow at different rates anyway. When you're older, you're going to want to look younger anyway. *wink
AngryBaby
whats with all the desperate topics lately? i have a feeling your doing something to annoy people. for example when you make a topic like this, your kinda advertising how desperate/paranoid you are. just get some self esteem...your probably not even that ugly. besides! there is plenty of ugly people with alot of friends hehe.gif so you have a chance, but since i dont know your personality in person. there is not much more i can say.
iNyCxShoRT
First of all maybe they're not even looking at you in a weird way, maybe its just the fact that you have low confidence and thats what makes you think that they are looking at YOU funny. They might have thought that your shirt is cool, it doesn't always mean "UGHHH!! GET THIS GIRL AWAY FROM ME!" Gain some confidence, and I'm sure if you just lay loose, relax. People will start to like you _smile.gif
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