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Joss-eh-lime
ive liked this guy in my class since the first day of school and today my friend finally trusted me enough to tell me who she likes and of course, it had to be the same guy. we arent really good friends we just met this year. what should i do?
SSJ Kenshin
Well, if you aren't good friends, then go for it. Treat her as a rival, rather than hesitating about it. Sometimes it's cool to look out for #1. This is one of those times.
SandRAWRz
beat her to the finish like but don't tell her you like him
you have to outshow her
Individualityy
Well, lol, it's not really a competition between you and her. It all depends on who the guy likes, doesn't it? Tell her that you don't want any hard feelings between you guys if he likes one over the other. Don't ruin a beginning friendship over a guy.
_sarcastic_
i'd say you go for it. before she does.
steezahh
keep going as normal; dont pick a fight; but i suggest whoever the guy you both like goes to in the end; i guess it was who he liked to start; so dont be mad if he does choose her; but be glad when he chooses YOU!
anubis
torch her on fire and go for the guy pinch.gif

hahahaha nononono

i'm totally kidding pinch.gif


BUT

if you only met her this year and don't really know her that well, SET YOUR PRIORITIES soon.

decide: who is more important to you?

A. the new friend
B. the hot guy

need i say the rest?
yuna*
wow how this sound a lot like my situation...
well my friend is much closer to me than you have described above..but anyways..I backed out this triangle relationship seeing that I consider her as my friend. Psh, and later I found out that they did went out together.. - -''..

I think you should choose whether you want to become closer to this new friend of yours. As anubis said, decide whether keeping a new friend or the new guy is more important to you. I would rather choose to have a friend that a guy who you don't even know if he feels the same way about you. And psh, guys..we can always find another,right? wink.gif
Joss-eh-lime
i dont want to treat her like the enemy. haha. but i guess i do have to decide between them. its pretty much up to him in the end.
aera
depends on who he likes. if he likes you, then he's yours. if he doesn't, then don't try. you can't force someone to like you.
OhXiet_ItzDonnA
I'd say go for it. If you tell her then she probably gonna try to get him to like her before he start liking you so dont let her know. Just go for it.
itsnever4ever
k well I already told you what i thought ya know cause i know this story hehe but I think ya know just stay friends you dont HAVE to choose between the guy and your friend. If he asked you out you'd say yea right? well I mean she can't blame you if he likes you and not her cause in teh end its not completely your decision its his. So if i were you i wouldn't choose especially not just yet wait and if he asks your friend out then psht w/e with him he's not good enough for you but you can still be friends with him. If he asks you out then don't feel bad because your friends can't be with him be glad that you can happy.gif
nopattern
Wow, I have the same problem except more complicated. If I could help you, I would. Sorry.
Looow
^ Please don't post here if you're not going to contribute to the topic.

Anyway, I say go for it. Yeah unless you think that your new friend is more important that your guy. Yeah think carefully though.
LaZi3nEsS xP
i have the same exact situation but its not one friend, its two! ive known one of them for one year and the other for two years. they`re my closest friends...and they just met him the begining of the skool year and ive met him since 7th grade...bieng the shy person that i am really sucks. i want to let him know that i like him...but i just cant get the word out..and my other two friends are like the coolest person ever. they can really open up. and i dont know wat to do either..but i guess its his decision, but at the same time yu`re gunna get hurt if he chooses your friend. so its better to tell him now.
bad_girl
go for it! love isnt about what others think or how others feel. its just about how you feel, && how he feels about you! if you both decide to let eachother go for it, then what? neither of you will end up getting anything.
mai_z
Try and decide how much you want to keep this friend. In theory, a good friend will be friends with you no matter what happens, but life isn't a theory, and nothing ever works out like it should. Know that if you go out with this guy, it's not gonna be pretty. In the end though, It's who the guy chooses. He may not like either of you.
megan_x3
Friend or boyfriend ? Pick. Many people said that they will pick friends before boyfriends/girlfriends. But if you don't know her that well, why not go for it? You guys aren't that close.. i suppose. SO go for it ! give it a shot.
anniepiee
is she the kind of person that would take the first step and go after a guy? or the shy kind that waits for the guy to make the first move?
i say, flirt all you can, if you end up with the guy, she cant do anything about it because the guy chose you. you didn't force it on him.

good luck!
Joss-eh-lime
i just found out he likes her. cuz i asked him lol. oh well =P
but the word is she doesnt like him anymore ohmy.gif
haha
itsnever4ever
OMGSH that sux man its ok tho u didnt like him that much anyways dont worry about it there will be lots of other hot guys laugh.gif
demolished
What a relieve !
Joss-eh-lime
wow it just got more complicated. i know this isnt really the place for this but ill tell what happened. he doesnt like the first girl, so i was happy but now im pretty sure he likes my friend and i told her i liked him already so shes kind of doing was i was going to. flirting with him and not worrying that i liked him first. yea... ermm.gif
sadolakced acid
i'm sure the guy would be happy for both.

just make out with her in front of him. that'll score points for both of you.
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