White Guys Hitting on Asian Girls at Asian Parties |
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 May 6 2008, 08:42 PM
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 ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶  Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593  |
What an inflammatory subject heading. I'm sure everyone will have lots to say on this. So tell me, what is the deal with white guys who frequent Asian parties hitting on Asian women. I was at a gathering last week for a Happy Hour and this white guy approaches two of my female friends as well as myself, one after another, each sequentially about 10 minutes apart. Extremely persistent and easily offended, he became irate when nobody would give him time of day.
So, what gives? Does he deserve to be treated meanly by Asian women for being the only white guy at an Asian function? Is the fact that he is there indicative of an Asian fetish? Or, are we too harsh to non-Asians at such events in general? I suppose none of the girls would have been so mean to him if he had been just normal and friendly. However, he was very slimy (and not at all attractive incidentally) and appeared to be "on the prowl". Is/was our intolerance some sort of reverse racial discrimination? I must point out however, that if I had been introduced to him through friends at the gathering, I am sure I would not have been the way I was to him. What does everyone think? |
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May 6 2008, 09:51 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,450 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 98,407 |
Damn. That's so true.
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May 6 2008, 10:02 PM
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 DDR \\ I'm Dee :) Group: Mentor Posts: 8,662 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,020 |
But... if white guys are there than it technically isn't an asian party...
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May 6 2008, 10:05 PM
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٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
That's not the point.
Besides it was an Asian American social gathering for an Asian club, but any ethnicity could come. |
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May 6 2008, 10:20 PM
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DDR \\ I'm Dee :) Group: Mentor Posts: 8,662 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,020 |
Lol, yes I know. I'm just being a pain in the butt.
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May 6 2008, 10:21 PM
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 in a matter of time Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,151 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 191,357 |
Well you just said it...he was slimy and unattractive. It's not the race, it's probably just him. If he was hot and charming, the girls would, on the contrary, be all over him.
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May 6 2008, 10:31 PM
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QUOTE(gigiopolis @ May 6 2008, 11:21 PM)  Well you just said it...he was slimy and unattractive. It's not the race, it's probably just him. If he was hot and charming, the girls would, on the contrary, be all over him. exactly. |
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May 6 2008, 10:33 PM
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 <3<3<3<3 Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,177 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,779 |
I know the type of guys you are describing, or at least what i'm thinking of fits that discription and it's best to state it clear that you are not interested in conversing. if I end up talking to him out of pity or to be nice they usually think of it the wrong way and may be leaded to something.
If anyone, of any race was creepy/slimy and unattractive and tried to hit on me, I would totally act that way too. It is so not racial discrimination. If that person acted normally i'm sure he would have gained some conversation. Been in several situations like this and it's been ugly =_= |
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May 6 2008, 10:53 PM
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٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
Forreals. But I just think most of the time, they might not be slimy or unattractive, but their intent are wrong. I mean they think just because their Asian women, that they are going to be humble, and oppressive and give in easily, so they try to take advantage of them.
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May 6 2008, 10:55 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,095 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 171,080 |
You did not type that story.
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May 6 2008, 10:56 PM
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٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
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May 6 2008, 10:58 PM
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 Ms. Granger Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 735 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 165,238 |
Some guy holding a baby gave me his number when I was at work. Same race as me, but still not attracted...he had a baby in his hands. Noh uh.
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May 6 2008, 11:00 PM
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٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
^ Maybe he thought you would think it's cute that he has a baby. Kinda like how some dude have cute puppies with them, to make girls notice him.
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May 6 2008, 11:00 PM
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 isketchaholic Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,977 Joined: Apr 2007 Member No: 516,154 |
QUOTE(Tungster @ May 6 2008, 08:53 PM) Forreals. But I just think most of the time, they might not be slimy or unattractive, but their intent are wrong. I mean they think just because their Asian women, that they are going to be humble, and oppressive and give in easily, so they try to take advantage of them. are you trying to turn this into a discussion about asian female stereotypes? LOL |
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May 6 2008, 11:02 PM
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Ms. Granger Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 735 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 165,238 |
QUOTE(Tungster @ May 6 2008, 11:00 PM) ^ Maybe he thought you would think it's cute that he has a baby. Kinda like how some dude have cute puppies with them, to make girls notice him. But...he didn't have to impregnate someone to get a puppy. He has to have money to get a puppy. Money...pregnancy...let's weigh the pros and cons...haha. |
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May 7 2008, 01:09 AM
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in a matter of time Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,151 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 191,357 |
QUOTE(ersatz @ May 6 2008, 09:02 PM) But...he didn't have to impregnate someone to get a puppy. He has to have money to get a puppy. Maybe he thought you were older than your...18 years and thought you'd be impressed that he was a good daddy. Either way it's still creepy and weird.Money...pregnancy...let's weigh the pros and cons...haha. The 'isolated' white guys in my school (i.e., the guys that don't hang out with Asians at all) would probably think that Asian girls like me are more submissive. Which is a total joke, of course. The way I see it, there are two types of Asians: white-washed Asians and normal Asians. I consider myself normal, wherein I exhibit both 'white' and 'Asian' characteristics. The isolated white guys that show up at the party will know the white-washed Asians from the normal ones. Maybe they will hit on the normal Asians, but it would probably be a joke that they could laugh at. And the normal Asian girls would know that they're a bunch of dicks that don't take normal Asian girls seriously. So yeah we'd blow them off. They might also hit on the white-washed Asian girls, but it's really not much different than a white guy hitting on a white girl, so this is not an issue. I guess what I'm trying to say is...if the white guy is going to think we're going to fall immediately for their amazing white-guy charm (I mean, think that we're submissive and can be controlled), then we're going to find it unattractive. Most girls I know aren't turned on by guys that make them feel intimidated or give off the feeling of being cocky and arrogant, regardless of race. Let's just say that, if there was a normal white guy who didn't have all these weird preconceived notions about Asian girls and treated them normally, there would be no problem. For the record, I know a few of these people and I wouldn't feel offended if they ever hit on me at a party. |
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May 7 2008, 01:17 AM
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<3<3<3<3 Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,177 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,779 |
Maybe they were trying to test that "Yellow fever" video.
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May 7 2008, 09:34 AM
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٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
whitee guy n blakk guy gott game...
asiann guy shyy bietchezz so no gamee.. CLOSE THREADDD..!! 
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May 7 2008, 12:58 PM
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 This bag is not a toy. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,090 Joined: Oct 2007 Member No: 583,108 |
First of all, as a white female living in a predominantly white area, I must say it is infuriating how every guy I've ever dated always stops to check out the rare Asian girl that walks by. It's like they see other white people all the time, so when they see an Asian girl they're immediately interested. A lot of the time, when you talk to guys about what kind of girl they think is hot, they'll say, "Asian." xD
Secondly, define "Asian function". You guys just all hang out together and it's looked at as strange if an outsider shows up? I dunno, that's kinda weird considering how diverse social gatherings are around here. The only thing I can think of is that we have a lot of international students that tend to stay together and not really socialize with other people. *shrug* Anyway, I think a lot of times when a guy tries to hit on a girl, regardless of race, it's gonna be pretty awkward. If you're not exaggerating in saying that he's literally the only white guy at the party, then yeah, maybe that's a little strange unless a lot of you know him. But I can't really say much, I'm fully aware that life around here is way different. |
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May 7 2008, 01:22 PM
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haha what? I know Asian girls who only date white guys...*shrug* |
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May 7 2008, 06:34 PM
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<3<3<3<3 Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,177 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,779 |
QUOTE(libertie @ May 7 2008, 12:58 PM) Secondly, define "Asian function". You guys just all hang out together and it's looked at as strange if an outsider shows up? I dunno, that's kinda weird considering how diverse social gatherings are around here. The only thing I can think of is that we have a lot of international students that tend to stay together and not really socialize with other people. *shrug* Club thing! not just like a chill with friends thing. QUOTE(Tungster @ May 6 2008, 10:05 PM) Besides it was an Asian American social gathering for an Asian club, but any ethnicity could come. But Dani, I know what you're talking about but that happens to me personally. XD Since I'm asian living in a majority white and black neighborhood, when I spot some asians my slanty asian eyes goes directly towards them. I also have asian friends that only date non-asians as well. But anyway the fact that the guy is creepy would turn me off, not cause of his skin. |
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May 8 2008, 09:34 AM
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٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
4 da asiann gurl dat go afta whittee guy... go afta alll u wantt.. butt wen u c me n tryda go afta me.. ME GINNAA BIETCH SLAP U!!!
 onee u go whitee... u gonnaa thinkk TWICEE... QUOTE(paperplane @ May 7 2008, 11:22 AM) 17 User(s) are reading this topic (16 Guests and 1 Anonymous Users) haha what? I know Asian girls who only date white guys...*shrug* yee.. deyy calll whiteewash whoo thinkk whitee guyy jeezzuzz... ..den wen dey c me.. dey drool likee lil bietchez... 2 badd me justt NEXT dem.. n say GTFO myy face..
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