Ex, coming back Options

[bambamboozle]

I dated this guy last year (Lets call him John). I broke up with him 'cause I felt kind of awkward (with him tickling me) and I didn't want to have anything over the summer. We came back to school, he dated my best friend. He broke up with her then asked me out again, I said no so I could fix things with my friend who I fought with (we're better now). He dated some other girl and then they broke up the other day. He asked me out yet again. I said that Id like to hang out with him again and become better friends to see if I really like him. Like, when he was dating the other people, I was so jealous and sad, I couldn't get him out of my mind. It started messin' with my school work some too. It was crazy. Now, I kept trying to get myself to move on, but anytime I could catch a glanse at him in the hall, I would.

The problem is 1-he dated my best friend and she still kind of has feelings for him 2-almost none of my friends like him because hes a 'bad guy', but some of the others know, like me, that he can be funny and stuff 3-I found out another one of my friends (lets call him Matt), who I flirt with a lot, likes me too, and I POSSIBLY may like him (one of those, "wait, he likes me, maybe I like him, hmmm, I DO flirt" things). My best friend who dated him thinks I should take a chance, but Im not sure. What should I do. I KIND of want to keep my options open with Matt, but I can't get John out of my head. He keeps saying he loves me so much and that we can still make it work out.

Oh, and Ive dated people, but its stressful cause Im not suppose to date until Im 16 so I have to hide it AND Im in a play right now so thats consumed my life, is it fair to date someone when I can barely even talk to them?

[xmkaex]

to mee..guys who date you then ur best friend...are not worth it...

they all come running back...lol

GO WITH MATT

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

About the play, - im in a play two. It is pretty much my life and we rehearse late at night usually around 11 more or less later. It is possible to hold a relationship but you wont get THAT much time to se eachother. But i think its good not to suffocate eachother so much [ not that you do that ]

And really talk to your best friend. Make sure shes absolutely okay with you trying another time with John. If you sense that she wouldnt at all be okay w/ you getting back with him then IMO, i wouldnt .

Maybe wait & see how you feel about Matt ?

[topsyturvy]

^ x2
true, true.

Here the problem isn't her friend. Seems to me her best friend is okay with it. But x_lilvietdreamer_x is right, he's probably not worth it, skipping from girl to girl like that, unless he's going through a very very experimental age

Why not take a chance with Matt? Personally i can't take it when a relationship ends and then after dating someone else, he comes back. Anyway, once you get involved with someone else, your feelings for your ex might eventually fade.

[miss-_-guitar]

i think that u should go for it wih matt. just tell him that ur really busy with the play and date when u dont have reakearsal. i was in a play last year and it took everyday after school till 5:30. if ur in that situation see him on the weekends

[_sarcastic_]

i agree with ki$$
he has dated so many girls after you, how would you know that he won't break it off with you again? besides you just patched up your friendship with your bestfriend and she still has feelings for him, don't want to ruin that friendship again.
i'd say just go with matt and see what happens

[sweetest-emotion]

u felt awkward with him TICKLING you? hmm sounds like you should wait until you grow up a bit befor eyou even start to date. wat u gonna do if the guy kisses u?? hmm but with the whole situation, i'd go with matt. any guy who goes out with ur best friend and breaks her heart is a d*ckhead. if he still luv, luv, luvs you, then he could've done something else besides date other girsl to make u jealous. i say go with your friend guy since he seems like a good choice. get john outta ur mind, its time to move on, and so does he.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

I say you should start fresh, if you really like Matt go out with Matt but if you're not sure, stay single for a while.

[hollesther]

I think you should go out with Matt. John has too many girlfriends. But if you keep thinking about them both, then just stay single until you've made up your mind.

[*grrfield*]

I say you don't date anyone, solves a lot of problems.

[topsyturvy]

What about the BIG BIG problem of loneliness?