HELP PLZ...my feelings on parents, finding out i have a bf Options

[highfashion]

just recently my friend Bruce asked me out. since i wasn't sure of my feelings toward him, i asked him if i could have time to think about it. he said okay. over the past few days i thought about our friendship. i've liked him on and off and on and off so many times that i was confused, but now i realized that i really do like him and we could really have a good relationship as bf and gf. so i would tell him yes BUT i have a problem. one word: PARENTS

its not that they dont allow me to date. they have no problem about me dating. it's me with the problem. i dont want them to find out that i have a bf. this might sound corny but, the reason i dont want them to find out is because i dont want my parents to be sad that they're letting me go. u know how dads say "oh ur daddy's little girl..."? well i dont want to lose that. if i have a bf, i wont be that "my little girl" image to my dad. i know, i know, im 17 and im not a little girl anymore, but my relationship with my parents is different (in a good way).

plus, they know that if i have a bf, then that means i hug, which leads to kissing, which leads to "total make-out", which leads to (waaaay later on) sex. i know they wont see me as innocent anymore. i dont want to lose that with them.

so my two questions are...
1. should i tell Bruce no because of my parents?
2. can u give me advice on my parent problems? (how to solve it, is it normal?, etc.)

[*wind&fire*]

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[_suzie_]

go out with him. no one said u had to tell ur parents. i dont talk to mine about boyfrinds

[NgocQuyen]

go out with him. no one said u had to tell ur parents. i dont talk to mine about boyfrinds 

yeahh i agree..you don't really have to tell your parents...lols...i mean theres really nothing wrong with it i dont think...

[_sarcastic_]

but your parents do let you go out don't they?
i mean sometimes parents do have to face the fact that their kid is growing up and has a bf whom she'll kiss and do stuff with

[ParanoidAndroid]

that won't happen...i've had a bf already and i'm still "daddy and mommy's little girl"

and yes it seems sad, growing up and not having the same relationship as you had with your parents...but even if you're not that cute little girl your dad thought of as a baby, you'll still be his daughter and he'll still be your father...so don't worry

[wishonthestars]

you should only tell your parents if you see it as becoming a SERIOUS relatonship. sooner or later, you will be a matured young adult. but that doesn't mean that you still can't be your daddys little girl. :)

[*mipadi*]

You'll always be your parents' children. You might still want to be their little girl, and I'm sure on some level they want that too, but they also want you to grow up and experience the world. Every parent enjoys seeing their children grow up, even if it is bittersweet. I'm sure they'd rather see you mature than see you stay their little girl. You can't be little forever, but no matter what, you'll still always be their little girl.

[silver-rain]

You will be bound to have a boyfriend and do all that stuff, unless you become a nun. And, like others have said, you will always be their little girl. But, you will to grow up and might not be as innocent, but to your parents, you'll still be their little girl.
Besides, if you really like Bruce, then just go out with him and see what happens.

[LittleLulu]

You will be bound to have a boyfriend and do all that stuff, unless you become a nun. And, like others have said, you will always be their little girl. But, you will to grow up and might not be as innocent, but to your parents, you'll still be their little girl.
Besides, if you really like Bruce, then just go out with him and see what happens.

lol EXACTLY

you'll always be their little girl. they NEVER let go of that. thats for sure

your parents are cool enough to let you date. it doesn't change WHO YOU ARE as a person. so what if you make out n stuff? you're still who you are. and really nothing can change it. if its only an "image" that you'd like to portray then its really...not you, right? you are who you are and your parents love you either way.

and no dont let your parents prevent you from going out with him.

[resrchmnkygrl6]

i don't think you should tell them...i mean...my relationship w/ my rents is the same way...but some things just aren't meant for parental eyes...u no what i mean??? it's ultimately up to you...buti think you should make a pros and cons list of both decisions...works for me...well, good luck with that...

[gr00vyswordsman]

lol EXACTLY

you'll always be their little girl. they NEVER let go of that. thats for sure

your parents are cool enough to let you date. it doesn't change WHO YOU ARE as a person. so what if you make out n stuff? you're still who you are. and really nothing can change it. if its only an "image" that you'd like to portray then its really...not you, right? you are who you are and your parents love you either way.

and no dont let your parents prevent you from going out with him.

Yes, I agree with LittleLulu. And if If you choose to Date him, I wish you good like, and hey, you liked him on and off, always be friends if you guys every stop@@! Wish ya luck!
~~~gr00vyswordsman

[miss-_-guitar]

tell ur parents that ur going out just as friends until they know him better. then hint to them that ur dating

[ParanoidAndroid]

i say tell your parents that you are going out

and if they get mad

it just prooves they love you

but make sure you inform them it's nothing serious

[topsyturvy]

but your parents do let you go out don't they?
i mean sometimes parents do have to face the fact that their kid is growing up and has a bf whom she'll kiss and do stuff with

^ agree

You will be bound to have a boyfriend and do all that stuff, unless you become a nun.

^ HAHAHAAAH.

Why turn down a guy you like for your parents when they allow you to date anyway? What an opportunity wasted.

Parents are parents, but children grow up. Whether they like it or not, you've matured and are a young woman. They should be accepting the fact that you'll be hugged and kissed (and whatelse) by other people who love you.

Despite the fact that you're not the little girl in daddy's lap anymore, i'm sure you and your parents still have that relationship and always will

[gr00vyswordsman]

^ agree
^ HAHAHAAAH.

Why turn down a guy you like for your parents when they allow you to date anyway?  What an opportunity wasted.

Parents are parents, but children grow up.  Whether they like it or not, you've matured and are a young woman.  They should be accepting the fact that you'll be hugged and kissed (and whatelse) by other people who love you.

Despite the fact that you're not the little girl in daddy's lap anymore, i'm sure you and your parents still have that relationship and always will

awww, people here are soo nice, what a wonderful community! Cheers

[HoodieObsessed]

awww his names Bruce, how romantic my dad's name's Bruce, not to mention the shark in Finding Nemo but more importantly (although I don't see how anything could be more important than that) don't let your parents get in the way of you and Bruce. Or, maybe you could say yes to him but tell him that you arn't ready to tell your parents so he doens't get the wrong idea, or something like that.

Not that I'm a great example. I do not want to date or have a boyfriend because (exactly the same reason) I don't want to tell my parents. Okay okay, so you all say "sooo, just DON'T tell your parents then!" HELLO, I can't do that:

being bf or gf leaads to --> Dating, which leads to...(HINT: having someone to drive you) and because I'm only 15 I cannot (legally that is) drive. Who drives then? one or the others parents. "Okay, so get your bfs parents to drive you" NOT THAT EASY! I still need to make an excuse for where I'm going. in other words lying, which is not my expertise, NOT TO MENTION that the bfs parents would probably not be so pleased with knowing the girlfriend's parents don't even know she's with the bf, or know where she's going etc. In other words, DOESN'T WORK.

But since you are old enough to drive that shouldn't be a problem for you, sooo as I see it, three choices (sure there's millions but I'm trying to narrow it down):

- Say no to Bruce, explain your parent situation, or just say you'd rather be friends. Way to crush the romance.
- Say yes to Bruce and DON'T tell your parents, just hang out at school or date in secret.
- Say yes to Bruce, tell your mom and dad, boom bada bang everythings peachy

good luck