What to do, boyfriend |
  |
 May 31 2010, 07:17 PM
Post
#1
|
|
 meow meow meow  Group: Member Posts: 149 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,364  |
My boyfriend and I been dating for almost three yrs. He has been acting strange lately. My friends tell me he is controlling and not good for me. I noticed his behavior and I want to help him recognize that.
He was looking through my phone, and saw that I talked to one of my friends he doesn't like. And I told him before I have talked to her. He dismissed me from his house early and the next day kinda avoided my text. So I chat with him on gtalk asking if he was avoiding me again, and that I don't want to waste my time. He said talk to your friend that you can't go without, not me. It's been 3 days since I haven't heard from him. I did call today once, but he didn't answer. Should I just be patience and wait... or give him another call. |
|
|
|
|
May 31 2010, 07:26 PM
Post
#2
|
|
 poison Group: Official Member Posts: 4,806 Joined: Mar 2008 Member No: 629,020 |
Go to his house. He can't press the ignore button there. Someone is bound to answer the door.
|
|
|
|
|
May 31 2010, 08:29 PM
Post
#3
|
|
 I'm Jc Group: Mentor Posts: 13,619 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 437,556 |
if this is the first time it's ever happened, then give him some more time and try to contact him and work it out. three years deserves some extra slack and understanding for mistakes. it's impossible to be together years without some trouble somewhere.
if this isn't out of the ordinary for him to do, then ditch him because jealous/controlling people are jealous controlling people and rarely ever change. i think being controlling is part of some people's personality, and as much as they may not want to be that way, they always resort back to trying to control who they are with. |
|
|
|
|
May 31 2010, 08:32 PM
Post
#4
|
|
 ♡♡♡♡♡ Group: Head Staff Posts: 18,173 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,478 |
QUOTE(brooklyneast05 @ May 31 2010, 09:29 PM)  if this is the first time it's ever happened, then give him some more time and try to contact him and work it out. three years deserves some extra slack and understanding for mistakes. it's impossible to be together years without some trouble somewhere. if this isn't out of the ordinary for him to do, then ditch him because jealous/controlling people are jealous controlling people and rarely ever change. i think being controlling is part of some people's personality, and as much as they may not want to be that way, they always resort back to trying to control who they are with. Ditto; JC always knows what he's talking about. |
|
|
|
|
May 31 2010, 08:35 PM
Post
#5
|
|
|
meow meow meow Group: Member Posts: 149 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,364 |
He's been doing this a lot. He would ignore me, then I would have to talk to him and apologize for something I shouldn't feel guilty about. Then everything will be normal. Then it will happen again. It's just this time he's not answering my phone calls. I see him online.., and I see he is focus on his music.
He wasn't like this before.. that much. I really love him, I just hate what he does to me. It's not fair for me to not talk to my friend because he doesn't like her. I don't want to hide that I am talking to her or deleting my text. It's not right.. |
|
|
|
|
May 31 2010, 08:36 PM
Post
#6
|
|
|
♡♡♡♡♡ Group: Head Staff Posts: 18,173 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,478 |
QUOTE(mizzkim @ May 31 2010, 09:35 PM) He's been doing this a lot. He would ignore me, then I would have to talk to him and apologize for something I shouldn't feel guilty about. Then everything will be normal. Then it will happen again. It's just this time he's not answering my phone calls. I see him online.., and I see he is focus on his music. He wasn't like this before.. that much. I really love him, I just hate what he does to me. It's not fair for me to not talk to my friend because he doesn't like her. I don't want to hide that I am talking to her or deleting my text. It's not right.. You're going to love him whether or not your breakup ends badly. Drop him and find someone better, because I promise you that you will meet someone better than him and wonder why you stayed with your current guy so long. |
|
|
|
|
May 31 2010, 08:41 PM
Post
#7
|
|
|
I'm Jc Group: Mentor Posts: 13,619 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 437,556 |
QUOTE(mizzkim @ May 31 2010, 08:35 PM) He's been doing this a lot. He would ignore me, then I would have to talk to him and apologize for something I shouldn't feel guilty about. Then everything will be normal. Then it will happen again. It's just this time he's not answering my phone calls. I see him online.., and I see he is focus on his music. He wasn't like this before.. that much. I really love him, I just hate what he does to me. It's not fair for me to not talk to my friend because he doesn't like her. I don't want to hide that I am talking to her or deleting my text. It's not right.. yeah probably won't change. i have been in a similar situation and it becomes completely exhausting trying to constantly apologize. it gets to be (for me) where it doesn't even mean anything and i'm not even sorry, i'm just trying to shut the damn person up so we can move on. i hate that cycle and it's easy to get stuck in it and just do it over and over constantly trying to pacify them so you're able to go back to being normal, even though normal is usually short lived. it's hard to get out of becuase i think both people do want to continue to talk/date, etc, but in the end i think sometimes people have to recognize that they just can't get along anymore. it's sad imo, but still how it goes. it's unreasonable to ask you to give up friends. |
|
|
|
|
May 31 2010, 09:35 PM
Post
#8
|
|
 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 1,938 Joined: Jul 2008 Member No: 667,832 |
if this happens often then its to the point where its not a healthy fight
you deserve better, even though its been three years doesn't mean he should constantly do that to you |
|
|
|
|
1 User(s) are reading this topic (1 Guests and 0 Anonymous Users)
0 Members: