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Posted by: brooklyneast05 May 30 2010, 11:16 AM

how often do you argue with your significant other? how long do you typically stay mad/annoyed at them?

Posted by: batman May 30 2010, 12:28 PM

avoid arguments and grudges >.<

Posted by: Cum May 30 2010, 02:17 PM

QUOTE(batman @ May 30 2010, 09:28 AM) *
avoid arguments and grudges >.<


Posted by: brooklyneast05 May 30 2010, 02:20 PM

it's impossible to avoid all arguments when you live with them

Posted by: batman May 30 2010, 03:29 PM

Well, I don't live with a significant other, but when it comes to arguments in general, I don't really hold a grudge. I might be pissed off and avoid somebody for a few hours to take that time to cool off; if it's not a big deal, I'll just get over it and approach them like the argument never happened. Sometimes I'll apologize if I feel like I've overreacted. Most of the time, though, I tend to just drop the argument for the sake of peace. Like, I wont just say that they're right, I'll try to just change the topic or whatever.

I tend to not argue a lot with people and the people I do argue a lot with are people that I usually don't like much, thus tend to avoid completely.

Posted by: ButtsexV2 May 30 2010, 03:59 PM

argue maybe once every month or so, stay mad for a few hours

Posted by: Matsumoto May 30 2010, 05:27 PM

I try not to argue because I'm just soo sick of drama, but it happens sometimes. My boyfriend and I almost never argue... We have disagreements every now and then, but we never stay mad at each other for more than a few hours.

Posted by: superstitious May 31 2010, 01:45 PM

We hardly argue, though when we do, the arguments are pretty nasty.

Life's too short to spend it spewing negativity at each other.

Posted by: karmakiller May 31 2010, 06:10 PM

On a somewhat related note, this topic reminds me of the research John Gottman does. He can predict, with up to 94% accuracy if couples are going to stay together or not (or whether their marriage last past the 8 year mark), based on how they argue and how they react to their significant other when he or she brings up something that would typically start an argument (like financial issues).

It doesn't really matter who I have a disagreement or argument with, I like to make sure that everything between us is ok before the day ends. I can't go to bed bitter or angry, so I usually opt to just deal with it right away.

Posted by: Uso May 31 2010, 09:48 PM

Me and my boyfriend don't really fight much, we had one big argument and like two minor ones it our 8 months, Ususally if he is pissed Ill just get annoyed and then just semi ignore him so I can have my space then we usually just slowly get a long again

so it's not bad

Posted by: brooklyneast05 Jun 1 2010, 07:08 PM

i argue nearly every day and we usually stay mad between 30 second and 5 minutes.

Posted by: batman Jun 1 2010, 08:00 PM

but is it like a real mad though? or is it just arguments about stupid stuff.

Posted by: brooklyneast05 Jun 1 2010, 08:03 PM

arguments about stupid stuff. like i just got in one about eating half a jar of nutella

Posted by: tokyo-rose Jun 1 2010, 08:10 PM

QUOTE(brooklyneast05 @ Jun 1 2010, 09:03 PM) *
arguments about stupid stuff. like i just got in one about eating half a jar of nutella

Haha, she sees you eatin', she hatin'...!

I count those as arguments/conflicts and not actual arguments. It's good you don't fight-fight every day, otherwise you'd both go crazy. But I know she probably drives you crazy just because she's a woman and therefore a terrible creature, amirite? :P

Posted by: superstitious Jun 1 2010, 08:30 PM

QUOTE(tokyo-rose @ Jun 1 2010, 08:10 PM) *
I count those as arguments/conflicts and not actual arguments. It's good you don't fight-fight every day, otherwise you'd both go crazy. But I know she probably drives you crazy just because she's a woman and therefore a terrible creature, amirite? :P

You know what though, those little conflicts can add up and eat at you. I've been in relationships where it felt like we were constantly at each other even though the arguments individually weren't a big deal.

Posted by: tokyo-rose Jun 1 2010, 08:38 PM

QUOTE(superstitious @ Jun 1 2010, 09:30 PM) *
You know what though, those little conflicts can add up and eat at you. I've been in relationships where it felt like we were constantly at each other even though the arguments individually weren't a big deal.

Yes, I've learned that the hard way, and also learned how not to nitpick and try to get along better, for both parties' sake.

Posted by: manny-the-dino Jun 2 2010, 12:58 AM

I tend to avoid arguing but when I really argue with someone, I usually won't talk to them for the rest of the day. I just like to have my own space, think about what was said and cool off. But if I absolutely have to talk to them, I will. Then the next day, things usually go back to normal. I won't really mention what happened the day before.

Posted by: pinayprincess Jun 26 2010, 02:08 AM

barely... like compared to the average couple that does fight, not enough

Posted by: Uso Jun 26 2010, 12:57 PM

A lot of times even if I'm a little tiffed about something my boyfriend does or says I usually just ignore it .
Something small I usually ignore it, Boys will be Boys and Girls will be Girls

And usually we all like to be right and prove eachother wrong

Posted by: brooklyneast05 Jun 26 2010, 12:58 PM

argued this morning and won showoff.gif yeahhhh boyyyy

Posted by: Uso Jun 26 2010, 01:02 PM

QUOTE(brooklyneast05 @ Jun 26 2010, 01:58 PM) *
argued this morning and won showoff.gif yeahhhh boyyyy

grats :p
What was it about this time?

Posted by: Matsumoto Jun 26 2010, 01:02 PM

Had an argument the other day because I keep telling my boyfriend to put the toilet seat back DOWN when he's done and he aaaaalways says he will and then NEVER does it. It's my apartment and I'd like to not fall in my toilet when I'm half asleep ...

Posted by: brooklyneast05 Jun 26 2010, 01:32 PM

QUOTE(Uso @ Jun 26 2010, 01:02 PM) *
grats :p
What was it about this time?


whether or not to get tacos for lunch

Posted by: Uso Jun 26 2010, 09:07 PM

QUOTE(brooklyneast05 @ Jun 26 2010, 02:32 PM) *
whether or not to get tacos for lunch

So you got your tacos? XD

Posted by: brooklyneast05 Aug 20 2010, 03:54 PM

sometimes she makes me want to break everything in my house

Posted by: serotonin Aug 20 2010, 03:59 PM

DO IT AS A DEMONSTRATION OF WHOS BOSS

Posted by: gojira Aug 20 2010, 04:03 PM

QUOTE(brooklyneast05 @ Aug 20 2010, 04:54 PM) *
sometimes she makes me want to break everything in my house


lmao

Posted by: Uronacid Aug 27 2010, 03:04 PM

We're f*cking married. We argue every day and have crazy sex.

Posted by: weed Aug 27 2010, 10:48 PM

QUOTE(brooklyneast05 @ May 30 2010, 03:20 PM) *
it's impossible to avoid all arguments when you live with them


agreed. ^^

i've been living with my s.o for almost 7 months now and compared to most couples, we're really good about rarely arguing but i've foud i'd rather argue a little more often and get over it more quickly instead of rarely arguing and having it be a bigger deal when it happens.

Posted by: brooklyneast05 Aug 27 2010, 11:01 PM

for real i don't get why people look down on arguments so much. never ever having arguments does not make a relationship automatically better than those who do.


i can't fathom always agreeing on everything. zzzzzzzzz



Posted by: gojira Aug 28 2010, 07:34 AM


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